In the book “True Notebooks” the inmates talked about a time when they went out on a limb and helped one another even when it was against there best interests, because they were in rival gangs, or being the fact they were a different race. Put in a similar situation knowing the consequences could be fatal would you still help them out because it was the right thing to do, or would you ignore it?
I would like to say I would do the right thing and help somebody out but I'm not entirely sure. I know if I did not help someone out then later I would feel extremely guilty and wish I did something about it however I also feel like during the situation I would be too afraid of the concequences of helping somebody else. It would really depend on the situation but I'm not really sure what I would do. I feel like this is one of those scenario's where it has to actually happen to you to be able to know what it is that you would do.
ReplyDeleteI would do what I think is best. If a person is my friend, then thats what they are. Frienships are all about being there for someone when they need you the most, so regardless of any extra baggage, if my my friend needed me I would be there. "we ride together, we die together. Bad boys for life". That was a quote from the movie Bad Boys which expresses that no matter what, their in the situation together as best friends.
ReplyDeleteBeing the person that I am, I probably would be the one to help in any situation. I believe its just how I was raised & the people I surround myself with. If I see someone strugglin, I'll try my best to help them. Although, its easier said than done. I still believe that it would bge out of my character to not help someone who was in need, no matter the consequenses.
ReplyDeletei would help because i am naturally a good person and i always strive to make other people lives better. i love to give an helping hand because i would want someone to do the same for me if i was in the same or similar situation. i believe in the art of karma, and the rule is what you do comes back to you. so i rather have god karma returning to me than have bad karma return to me. the world is already a unforgiving place, why not make another person's live better? it may actually help yours in the mean while.
ReplyDeleteSometimes we in life we feel like we are stuck in between a rock in a hard place. With me I find this often. I have noticed myself trying to place a "Superman" roll for a lot of people. I know that helping is the right thing to do,but sometimes I ask myself am I trying to help to much? What about when I need help? Would they do the same for me? Even through asking these question I still tend to find myself helping other even when Im not in the position to. For instance Say I seen a homeless person and they had asked for money. I only had one more dollar. I would more than likely give it to them, because I feel like as if they would probably need it more than I would. so yes I do tend to go out my way to help others.
ReplyDeleteI honestly am not sure. It is one of those things were i think you have to be in that situation in order for you to know what you would do. there is a line we must draw between being a good person and being a good person and by doing so you are risking your life if the end result doesn't benefit us enough. and we cant really see that line that tells us "okay you are going to far, don't do it" or "it is worth the risk." it really depends on how serious the situation was, how risky it is and what are the chances of success. I would like to say that in most cases, yes. i would try to pull together and help out.
ReplyDeleteIf it was a fatal situation I would probably try to help prevent the situation from happening.
ReplyDeleteWhen I was in high school, one of my friend's mothers yelled at my teacher during parent teacher conferences because he once said, "President Bush is like Hitler" to a few students between classes. He wasn't teaching us that President Bush was Hitler and he wasn’t even serious about the statement. He said it much like I would say, “my legs are killing me” after a long run (of course my legs aren’t REALLY killing me). Anyway, the parent took it in the wrong way and my friend and her mom were really upset. My friend tried to convince me to be rude to the teacher and to agree with her and her mom. I took the side of my teacher and after class told him I didn’t think that the mom yelling at him was right. This put my friendship in Jeopardy, and I’m not sure my friend ever really forgave me for this.
ReplyDeleteI realize my experience isn’t nearly as dramatic as gang relationships, but this was how I was able to connect with the reading. Have you ever stood up for someone against your friends’ feelings?
It really depends on the situation and who the person is. Then again I'd help them if they were in dire need of assitance even if it wasn't in my best interest. Don't mean to sound weird, but its all up in the air. I guess we can all say one thing right now on the blog, but in the actual instance our judgement may change!
ReplyDeleteThere's always a time where two people do not see eye to eye about certain things and this happens alot with one of my best friends and I. Were both completely differntly people, I'm an artsy kid and he's a jocky kid so its strange to think we can be such good friends. I always felt during some disagreements we've had is you always need to stand by your beleifs until proven wrong.
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ReplyDeleteYes, I have stood up to one of my closest friends for an individual. My friend was being harsh towards the other person because he was apart of another "clic". I never really got into the "clic" thing since I got along with everybody. So yes that is basically the only experience I have of me standing up to a friend for someone else.
I agree Quentin. I have been best friends with a complete opposite of me since I was three years old. I loved art, she loved Martha Stewart reruns, I wanted to go to college, she wanted to get married right away, I like cars, she likes trucks. We can never talk about politics without getting into a big argument. How do you manage to stick with people or remain friends with people who differ a lot from you?
ReplyDeletei would help out because right thing to do and because i am a good person and i would want help if it was me
ReplyDeleteI would help because I love helping people out with anything I can to make a diffents in peoples lifes and make friends because everyone needs friends or just to do the right thing.
ReplyDeleteThe way I'm still close friends with people I differ from is because I made those friendships at a young age so by the time we differed our friendship was strong. I think that you can be friends with people who do not have the same beleifs as you as long as you have some common ground. That's why I think you need to always stand by your beleifs until proven wrong.
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